Breastfeeding a new baby with an older sibling

Expecting a new baby? Wondering how to get your older child ready? One thing to do is talk to them about babies. Describe how they look and that they mostly eat, sleep, and cry. You can also explain that they need to be held a lot, so your attention will be shared.

Tell stories about when your older child was a baby and how you took care of them. It'll help them understand they were once in the same position as the new baby.
Involve your older child in caring for the baby. Talk about what they can do, like talking to the baby, getting diapers, or fetching mom's water. It makes them feel included and responsible.
If your child has weaned or was never breastfed, explain that mom makes milk for the baby, and nursing is how the baby eats. Also, let them know nursing helps the baby feel better when they're sad or scared.
If your child still nurses and you plan to breastfeed both, talk about it. Explain that both the baby and your older child will nurse after the baby is born. Show pictures of siblings nursing together.
Don't hide breastfeeding from your older child or other children. It's a chance to show that breastfeeding is normal and healthy. It's a natural part of life to learn from and understand.
Handling curious situations: Some kids may be curious when they see you breastfeeding because they associate babies with bottles. If they ask, explain you're feeding and nurturing the baby. By showing them, you teach that breastfeeding is normal.

Let's talk about making feeding time easier.

If you need a free hand, use a pillow to lift the baby to the right height. It might take some practice, but it's worth trying. If you need to support your breast with your other hand, a rolled-up towel can help.
Are you comfy with a sling? It's great for feeding with a free hand. You can play with your other child while feeding and keep the older one from causing trouble.
Your toddler can be a helper. They can get things for you, like diapers or a water bottle. They might not hold the baby in the shower, but they can help with small tasks.
While feeding, snuggle up and read books or play games like "I Spy." Let your toddler turn the pages if your hands are busy.
Some toddlers like pretending to feed their toys while you feed. It's cute and makes them feel involved. Look at baby pictures together and talk about when they were little.
Make a safe space for you and the baby. Lie down comfortably while your toddler plays with toys. Give them a snack and a drink.
Sometimes, older kids are curious about breastfeeding. If you're okay with it, you can let them touch gently. If not, offer a little breast milk in a cup or distract them. Find what works for you and your child.

A few things to keep in mind:

Never use home-made baby formula.

Carefully read the mixing directions on the formula package.

Use safe water for their baby. Either use infant water, or boil tap water for one minute and then let it cool down before mixing.

It's normal for your baby's poop to look or smell different when you change formulas.

With help from your pediatrician, ask how to wean your baby from one formula to another. This can involve mixing both formulas separately and then putting them together in a special ratio to gradually wean the baby to the new formula.

If your baby is refusing the bottle, it may be a sign they are getting used to the flavor. They will usually adjust over time.

Signs your baby isn’t tolerating new formula

Look out for signs that your baby isn’t tolerating the new formula. If you notice any of these signs, stop using the new formula and call your doctor right away:

Diarrhea

Blood or mucus in poop

Vomiting

Signs of pain, like pulling legs up towards their stomach while they're crying

Trouble gaining weight

Always consult your doctor when changing formulas.

Common questions

Q: Does my breast pump count as a second carry-on?
A: No, your breast pump is a medical device and doesn't count toward your carry-on limit. But a breast milk cooler does count. Tell TSA during X-ray checks if you have a breast pump.

Q: Does the three-ounce rule apply to breast milk?
A: No, breast milk is exempt. No need for three-ounce containers or a quart-sized bag. Inform TSA at security and note that frozen milk or milk under 3 ounces doesn't require screening.

Q: Can I bring pre-pumped breast milk in a cooler?
A: Yes! Use a well-insulated cooler and declare it to TSA. There's no limit in the US, but check airport rules if you’re flying internationally. Ice packs must be frozen solid.

Q: Do I need my baby with me to carry breast milk?
A: No, your child does not need to be present. You can pump even if you're without your baby!

Q: Will TSA open milk bags or bottles for testing?
A: It’s unlikely. They might swab the outside if it’s not frozen. You can refuse to open a container and opt for extra screenings if you want to.

More tips

Frozen or fresh? Consider the length of your trip. Breast milk is safe unfrozen for 4 days in a fridge or 24 hours in an insulated cooler with ice packs. Allow extra time at security if your milk isn't frozen.

TSA tranquility: Don't stress about security. Mentioning your breast pump or milk may speed up the process. Print TSA's flying-with-breast-milk guidelines for more info.

Nursing nooks: Check if the airport has nursing pods. If not, find a comfortable spot—family restroom, vacant gate area, or a quiet corner.

Pumping in flight: For a long journey, pumping mid-flight is doable. The airplane's noise can mask the pump's sound. Use a nursing cover and pump in your seat. Consult a flight attendant for advice on timing and location.

Backup essentials: Visualize your pumping routine and pack accordingly. Include spare batteries, cleaning wipes, storage containers, ice packs, a cooler, spare parts, and a nursing bra or cover. Bring a manual pump as a backup.

Embrace the trip: Enjoy your holiday without stressing about air travel. Try to focus on the beautiful memories you'll create!

Breastfeeding a new baby with an older sibling

1. How much colostrum do babies need?

2. When does breast milk come in?

3. Does breastfeeding hurt?

4. How long should I breastfeed?

5. Do I wake my baby for feedings?

6. Which medicines are safe while breastfeeding?

7. How do I get my baby to latch?

8. When does my period come back after having a baby?

9. How do I balance milk supply in both breasts?

10. Can I breastfeed while sick?

11. Do I need a breast pump?

12. Can I breastfeed with flat or inverted nipples?

13. What if I need urgent help with breastfeeding?

A few things to keep in mind:

Signs your baby isn’t tolerating new formula

Common questions

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