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Being a birth partner is so special. Your support is very important. Here are ways to help during labor:

Educate yourself

Go to childbirth classes and read about birth.
Get to know the birth plan.
Know the needs and concerns of the birthing person.

Be calm

Labor is intense. Be calm, reassuring, and supportive.

Be their voice

Explain the birthing person’s wants and needs to the medical team.
Make sure the birth plan is respected. Offer guidance on decisions.

Help with comfort measures

Help with pain management techniques.
Suggest different positions, massage, and relaxation methods.

Keep them hydrated

Offer water, ice chips, or snacks if allowed.

Offer emotional support

Labor is emotionally challenging. Offer encouragement and support.
Remind them of their strength and be a listening ear.

Be flexible

Labor is unpredictable. Be ready to adapt to changes in the birth plan.

Capture the moments

Document the process if allowed. Photos or videos can be cherished memories.

Stay informed

As labor gets stronger, it will be harder for the birthing person to focus on what’s happening around them.
Keep the birthing person informed if they want to be. But respect their desires if they need to focus on laboring.
Protect the birth space.

Postpartum support

Help with postpartum needs like skin-to-skin contact, breastfeeding support, and recovery.

Being a birth partner is a chance to support your loved one through a big life event. Remember, your job continues after birth. You might need support too; it's okay not to have all the answers. Your love and care cannot be replaced, but a doula can offer support for you and your loved one during labor and birth.

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